So I was in Barnes and Noble the other night looking for a book I read about on another blog, because I think I was raised this way.
And I know my mother never read it...it was not printed till after she was done parenting.
But as far as I can tell, it's her philosophy.
I couldn't remember the exact title but I knew it was something like, "How to raise a child without force."
So I go to the Parenting section of this book store and notice all the books are listed by author in alphabetical order.
I go up to the Customer Service desk where there are 2 waiting clerks with 2 empty computers.
Both gentlemen look to be about 20 years old, 25 at the most. I ask one of them,
"Excuse me, but I'm looking for a book called How to raise a child without force. Do you know if you carry that book?"
The young clerk turns to me and says, "
"Just go look through our Parenting section."
"I've already done that, but the books are all listed by the author and I don't know who the author is."
Then this same young clerk says to me,
"Well have you tried verbal affirmations? Or there are other things you can try, like....
I cut him off and said,
"I'm all done parenting. I'm just looking for a book CALLED, "How to raise a Child Without Force."
I wanted to say, "Look at me. Do I look like I am just beginning parenting?? I'm old enough to be your mother, maybe even your grandmother!"
I know, he was just trying to help. But I laugh now every time I think of him trying to educating me about not being so forceful as a parent!
This all started when I read one of my favorite blogs last week, Asking Jane. Jane is the mother of 11 children. Her blog was put together by her oldest daughter Natalie, the mother of 4 sons. About once or twice a week Jane will answer a specific parenting question. Her take on things is a bit different but I love her answers.
A few days ago she gave the book title that I went looking for. I got the title a bit wrong. Here it is:
Raising a Child not by Force but by Love
Check out Jane's question last week and see what you think. Her answer will not be what you expect. Oh and you can submit your child raising questions, and I'm sure she will answer them! She is one very wise mother and grandmother.
I realize I have mentioned this blog before, but it's impressive.
PS The book's basic philosophy is raising your child by the Golden Rule, which the author believes is a higher law than 'natural consequences.' It's all about how to treat a child the way you would want to be treated. Yep, that was my Mom's way!
Oh, and keep in mind, the logo on Jane's blog was created by her daughter...so her daughter is the one calling her mother "brilliant", not Jane :))