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A message from my Mom

Please read this disclaimer first: Below is an excerpt from my Mom's journal 36 years ago on her birthday. She mentions something that my Dad did and I promise you it is the worst thing he has ever done in his life. I'm very serious. I've known him all of my life and this is as bad as it gets with him. My mother would whole heartedly agree. She spoke very highly of him. Okay, as long as you know this, you can read on.

And while my Dad goes by the name of Richard now, back then he was Dick.

December 8, 1977:
Mom's birthday, and she wrote in her journal:

"…Dick gave me $50. --my favorite present-- It is nice having a little "mad money" of my own. He also said 2 things I had hoped he would overlook in honor of the occasion but nobody's perfect. When we got up he said, "Whose turn was it to do the dishes?" (It was Chris' but he had gone to a basketball game.)  

And, when Dick came in about 4:30 , I was talking to Robin on the phone from Provo…

Ashley's baby shower

It took five pregnancies to bring this baby to earth…..
and here she is….

Presenting:  Sarah Jane Nef 1 month old and 6 1/2 lbs now! (She was 4'10' at birth)

My niece Ashley with sweet little Sarah.  I got to hold her, too, which was like holding a part of heaven.
Is there anything more precious than a newborn? No, there is not. That is the answer.
As I saw Ashley with two of her sisters, Brooke and McKenzie, surrounding little Sarah  I thought how blessed this child is. She will not lack for anything in this world. She also has an Aunt Lauren across the US who couldn't make it…. but I know she is so anxious to see her baby niece.

And many Aunts on the Nef side too!
Aunts Melanie, Ellen, Tammy, and Jamie. And Great Grandma Finlayson

And not to forget Sarah's Grandmas…
Grandma Susan and Grandma Robin….not sure what Sarah will call them exactly,
but that's good enough for now. Sarah is Robin's (my sister) first, and Susan's eighth!

And TWO Great Grandmas
So much love and suppo…

32 seconds of singing

If I knew Elora and Violet were going to break out in song,
I would have moved them to a better background.
Life happens. And I caught it anyway.

Have a very blessed Thanksgiving!

Bathroom cabinets before and after...

It all started with a blog post I read by  She showed her bathroom cabinets and how she changed from the way they looked on the left,  to the way they are now on the right. (This is her picture not mine.)
She has complete instructions for the staining process including exactly what stain to buy,  and other necessary supplies for it.  She even tells you how long to sand each door or drawer (1 minute)  and how many coats to put on, and how many days apart.
I thought, oh, maybe Dennis will do this for our bathroom cabinets?

 I asked him and he didn't seem that interested. So I just let it go.
Then about a day later I brought it up again…. "Are you sure you wouldn't want to stain our cabinets?" He said he has never had good luck with staining projects. So I let it go again.
Then about a half day later I caught him doing nothing.  A rarity, but he was just standing there looking bored.  I thought, is this an opportunity or what? (My mom taught me t…

17 years ago

The anniversary comes around every year. I usually call my sons or they call me. But this year, no, I haven't even mentioned it to them. I was even with Brock and Logan today for lunch, along with their families, and it wasn't even brought up. Why is that? Have we healed? I know they haven't forgotten.

But still, it's in the air. Especially this year because their Dad was killed Nov. 23rd, 5 days before Thanksgiving in 1996. Yesterday was a Saturday, and it was also Nov 23. It all came back in flashbacks all day long. Not in a bad way anymore. Rather, it was what it was, and in a moving on sort of way.

17 years. A lot has happened to us in all that time. Many, many blessings. If I could have only seen our futures during those very dark days of our lives….

I've been watching Time out for Women this weekend in Utah via my computer. I got to hear Sheri Dew talking about Emilie Parker… of the little kindergarteners killed in that horrible Sandy Hook shooting last …

JFK was not the only one who died 50 years ago today

Did you know that on the very same day President Kennedy died, CS Lewis also passed away? 
I didn't either, not until my brother sent me an email about it. But what surprises me more, is I cannot find anything about CS Lewis' death in the newspapers back then. 
Nothing at all in our local paper of both Nov 22 and 23 of 1963. Was he not famous until after his death?
Of course back in the 4th grade in 1963, I doubt I had even heard of CS Lewis.

You can go here to read. 100 of his most famous quotes. 
The quotes are all done up Pinterest style so they are fun to see.

What I love most about C S Lewis is he made so much sense!
For example one of my favorites:

“What would really satisfy us would be a God who said of anything we happened to like doing, ‘What does it matter so long as they are contented?’ We want, in fact, not so much a Father in Heaven as a grandfather in heaven — a senile benevolence who, as they say, ‘liked to see young people enjoying themselves,’ and whose plan for the u…

Last night in the clothing department...

Den and I were at JC Penneys last night and he was carrying my purse for me, as he often does. I said I just needed to try on the 2 blouses I had draped over my arm and I'd be right back. I started to walk away, then turned back and said, "Don't go very far because you have my purse and my phone, I have nothing." He assured me he would be right close by.

So I quickly try on the first blouse. I hurried out of the dressing room to get Den's opinion on how it fit. He said in his very careful way, "Isn't it a little uncomfortable?"  He just can't say it's too small for me but I know that's what he meant.

Back in the dressing room I looked at myself in the mirror and to me it looked like it fit just right. So I go back out to find Den, still wearing the same blouse he just saw me in, and said, "How about this one? Does this one fit better?" He looks me over and says, "Yes, that one's better." He nods his head in appro…

Austin's Obstacle

First of all, before I go on,
let me just say that Austin LOVES LOVES LOVES his mission in New York.

His words are so passionate in his emails each week that they practically fly off the computer. Seriously.

He loves teaching and serving and he is doing LOTS of that.

He is very happy, but at the same time he is struggling with a challenge that we hope to get resolved soon.
He is so very tired. 

He needs to sleep a lot. He has to. But he doesn't want to feel this way. These pictures aren't posed. He really does fall asleep like that.
He is having some medical tests done, including an overnight sleep study in a few weeks. Before his mission he began feeling sleepy but Amy and him wrote it off as being  so busy with school, practices, graduation, etc etc. But since coming on his mission it has only escalated and become much worse.
Meanwhile, would you please pray for him?
As soon as they get this figured out, I will let you know.

What does this generation say now??

With all the sawing of wood here, there is dust flying everywhere.

I can handle pollen just fine, but I don't do well with dust. So last night I told Den,
"I need to get out of here for a bit." so we decided to go to Red Robin for dinner.
But look what we saw as soon as we opened their doors:

And it smelled just like our house, too.
The lights were blaring in our eyes….but we were told, "Don't worry, after the remodel our lights will go back to normal."
Even with my sunglasses on that place gave me a temporary headache.

But we're having a great week. As I am going through the kitchen drawers and cupboards,
I'm finding little surprises.
Like this list I made how many years ago of things my Mom use to say:

Don't rush off.

You don't eat enough to keep a bird alive.

If you can't beat em, join em.

This, that, and the other thing.

All good things must come to an end.

A little bit of information can be a dangerous thing.

There are many ways to skin a …

Goodbye tile...

A good friend of mine told me it was time.
I knew she was right. And she knew I needed a push.
I'm a tile girl, and I've always loved ours.  However, the past 2 years we've had too much trouble with it.
But how can I just let someone rip it all up….I raised my boys on these kitchen counter!

I've cooked and baked with my grandchildren on it.
But whether I keep the tile or not, they aren't coming home.  They will never be like this again. Tile or not. So it's gotta go.
I had this one friend years ago….whenever they would sell one of their cars,  she would sit in it, close the doors and just talk to it. At least I don't do that.
Looking around on blogs for ideas on what we wanted to do with our kitchen, I found this sweet story in one of the comments:

This reminds me of the time my friend's husband decided to remodel the kitchen while she was in the hospital. They already had everything "picked", but just hadn't gotten the time to execute th…

Ronald Reagan and Veterans

"We owe them a debt we can never repay."

A Jenny update

Chris and Mom about 1972
My youngest brother passed away over 5 years ago. It was a shock to all of us.

Chris' former wife, Jenny, was kind enough to send me some pictures yesterday of her 2 little girls.
Aren't they beautiful! Jenny is as pretty as ever, too.

Kaylin, 15  months Jasmine, 3 years both born in August, 2 years apart
Of course I couldn't help but think of what could have been. But I am so happy to hear that Jenny and her little family are doing well! They now live in New York, and Jenny is a full time stay at home Mom! I remember so clearly watching my Mom pace the floor in labor that Monday night in 1967, before she went to the hospital for Chris' birth...  He was born on my Dad's 37th birthday!
And at the time I thought my parents were SO old.