Sometimes you can tell your adult kids what to do but....
Saturday, March 18, 2017
Sometimes you can tell your adult kids what to do but....
Monday, March 13, 2017
So one evening last December while McKay and McKenna were here from Boston,
I had them tell me about their horrible adventure flying out here.
No way do I want them ever to repeat this experience.
We never finished this video as I got tired and wanted to go to bed that night.
Then Karen and Tyler arrived and we were too busy having a good time after that.
But they did make it to San Francisco, and Brock drove them the 4 hours to us,
arriving here about 4pm.
About 16 hours late.
We hope they come back next time in the Spring or Summer!
Friday, March 10, 2017
I learned yesterday that LOWES has some building kits for kids
Monday, March 6, 2017
and right on page 2 there is this one line in their story
that describes our neighbors,
homes, with well groomed neighbors that kept to themselves."
our block and we've lived here for 7 months now.
woman, although I did go to school with one of her sons, so I read
it. The part that struck me I highlighted:
to know she gave her family her all.
say to me when I was a little girl: "One of the biggest secrets in
the world is being a wife and mother is THE best job in the
history she could pass on to her sister
who is having a baby any day now.
I did find one!
My Great Great Great Aunt Atlantic Ocean Lewis,
born in 1809.
She was the 11th child of 14.
There must be a story behind her name, but not sure we will ever know!
The other 13 children in the family have normal names.
5. We are loving this stuff.
It comes in other brands as well, I think.
I put it on fish, vegetables, pasta
and last night on our chicken salad (not as a dressing, just as extra seasoning)
6. My nephew Jake and Katie had their 2nd baby boy today.
Wednesday, March 1, 2017
I'd been coming to the school theater for 24 years.
sons there. Monday night it was all about our granddaughter Elora.
He said, "We can't do that."
I know our place.
Tuesday, February 28, 2017
When I'm still thinking about a talk I heard at church 2 days later, I
want to write about it.
The subject was love. Given by a Mom of 5 kids.
She said when her kids were younger (they are now about 9-19)
she would often get in the middle of their disagreements. But
when they all seemed to come at her at once and she had no idea
what was going on, or who was right and who was wrong, she
developed a plan.
This was clearly on days when they were all not getting along. She
would send them all to different spots in the house for a time
out. Then she would tell them they could come out as soon as they
could come tell her what they did wrong.
She did not want to hear anything about anyone else. She just
wanted to know what they did wrong, or what they could have
It could have been even something simple like, "I should have said
that in a different tone."
She said this was very hard for a few of them.
In my younger years, even a decade or two ago, I'm not so sure I
would have agreed with this. There is often someone who is more
guilty than the other. Someone who is more selfish, or someone
who stirs the pot in a family more.
But then as I was sitting there Sunday I thought what a gift this
Mom is giving to her children. Perhaps as adults they will not be
spending sleepless nights trying to think of ways to change others.
Love is the greatest power we have.
Tuesday, February 21, 2017
Saturday, February 18, 2017
moment. Last Christmas, which was only a few weeks ago right?
Somehow, even though I obviously opened this gift,
I found these and got so excited!!
refrigerator magnets don't work well in the scanner.
McKenna is still gorgeous, even with a high forehead.
Carolina. So earlier this week while I was looking for some info I
opened one of my Mom's old binders up,
couple days ago. He knows how interested Den is in his life and
even in his daily schedule so he made him a chart.
I deleted some of the times, respectful of their privacy.
This makes both of us very happy. Can't explain it, but it does.
so we opted not to go visit them this week.
too. I must have picked it up over the phone lines. Who knew.
like me and add 3-4 frozen chicken thighs instead.
to get our Vitamin D levels up.
Thursday, February 16, 2017
I'm pretty sure I'm the only one still alive who knows this story. So for that reason I feel compelled to
share it here so my sons and their families will have it should they need it in the future.
Everyone who is Mormon, has their own conversion story.
My parents had theirs, which I posted HERE.
So this is how my first husband, Bill, found the church. There's lots of sadness in this story so I don't
mean to imply these horrible things happened so he would find the church. It's just the truth of how
this story unfolds.
If this can be considered a conversion story, it is the most unusual one I've ever heard.
It began to me as a family mystery. Back in the mid 1970s my first husband, Bill, and I were
attempting to do his family history work. When we'd go through the Heasley line we were able to find
information. But whenever we would attempt to investigate his mother's line, we would get stopped
by his maternal Grandma, Alice. Her maiden name was Altop, but she would say to us, "Don't do
the Altop line because that is NOT my family." Then she would go on to say, "I was adopted, so
go through the Massa line, NOT the Altop. I'm a Massa!"
She obviously had issues with being adopted, or so we thought. Made no sense because we
discovered she was only about a year old when she was placed into the Altop family...so she couldn't
have had memory of her bio mom, Dominica Massa.
So Bill and I would discuss that the Altops must not have been good parents to her, maybe even
abusive? She was probably not wanting to claim them because of that? We could only guess.
So a few times while we were talking to Grandma Alice about her family, I gently and carefully
asked her something like, "Were the Altops good people?" and her response was alway this: "They
were decent people." Nothing more.
So then why did she not claim them as her family?
Didn't make sense to either one of us, but out of respect to her we just ignored the Altop line and or
any line connecting Alice to family.
It all just stopped right there and remained one big mystery.
Until one afternoon we were visiting Grandma Alice at her home in Coalinga. Her birth sisters, Lee
and Thelma were also visiting that day. (Yes, Alice had 2 older birth sisters. When Lee, the older of
the 3 sisters, became an adult, she went looking for her 2 younger birth sisters, Thelma and Alice. So
somewhere back in the day the sisters reunited and stayed close.)
In the past when I would ask Grandma Alice about the reuniting of her birth sisters, she was vague,
not really answering any questions, and just changing the subject.
But that afternoon Grandma Alice went somewhere....so did Bill, his parents, and 2 of our sons. I
think they went together to get ice cream at Thriftys as they often did, I can't remember, but I found
myself sitting around the kitchen table with Grandma's birth sisters, Lee and Thelma. With my baby
McKay on my lap. This was 1984
I don't know how the subject came up that day, but Lee and Thelma started talking about their birth
mom and how lucky they were to have found their birth sisters all these years later. They never told
me how that came to be, but they did talk about their birth mom and why the 3 sisters grew up in 3
As they explained to me that day, their mom, Dominica Massa had just given birth to her 3rd
daughter (Grandma Alice) when her husband suddenly left her. He took off, and was gone. Thelma
did most of the talking, "Back in those days a woman could not survive without a man to support
her. So Mom married the first guy who came along. Problem is he didn't like children."
She went on to explain that after they were married he insisted she give the daughters up. Thelma
very matter of fact explained, "So mom put us in an orphanage. She was so upset about losing us,
that she got a job in that orphanage so she could be with us each day."
Soon their mom became pregnant. She was fearful of telling her husband this so she attempted to
give herself an abortion. She died in that attempt. So all 3 girls (about 1, 3, and 5 or 6) were
relinquished for adoption and put into three different homes. Lee was the older sister so she
remembered her mom and she remembered being taken from her sisters.
This is when 1 year old Alice was adopted by the Altops. It just so happened they were Mormon, so
Alice grew up active in the church, but for whatever reason she did not remain so for at least the first
two decades of her adult life. Alice married young and had her first and only child, Niada (my sons'
Grandma), when she was 18.
Alice eventually came back into the Mormon church. By now her daughter Niada was married and
they had 2 young sons. Alice wanted her daughter and her family to also have the church in their life
so with their permission she arranged to have the missionaries teach them. Soon Niada, her husband
Bill and their 2 sons Jim and Bill were baptized. But since it was a long drive to church they soon
quit going and that was that.
When Bill joined the Army at age 18, the form asked what religion he was. He barely remembered
being baptized, but he did remember he was Mormon, so he wrote that down.
Several years later, after he completed his Army duty, he thought about the religion he listed on those
Army forms and wondered about the Mormon church. So while attending college in Visalia, one
Sunday he stopped in to one of the Mormon churches, walked up to the bishop and basically said,
"All I know is that I'm a baptized Mormon. But I don't know anything about it." This kind
bishop brought him into his office where they talked for a few hours. From that day forward he
started attending church and the Young Single Adult activities. Four months later he moved to
Fresno, and that's when I met him. We married 19 months later.
But I noticed it was signed in 1977. I'm assuming this must be when the sisters reunited....and
somehow they were able to track down this event, find this Catholic church, and ask for a certificate.
Tuesday, February 14, 2017
When Dennis saw this video tonight, he had doubts about it being
real. But I corrected him, and said pregnant women can really be
THIS passionate about their food.