Monday, March 9, 2009

A grieving mother

I can't get this post off my mind so I think that means I'm suppose to share this with you all. This family, who I do not know, recently lost one of their 2 year old twins to cancer.

This is a very powerful post.
We just can't ever take our family for granted.

"Can someone tell me what the hell is going on? Don't we have 4 kids? Where is Tuesday?Did I really have a child die from cancer? Cancer?! Are you kidding me? This doesn't make any sense. Why is Piper helping Charley make pancakes alone? Tuesday should be there. Her picture is everywhere. I know I'm not making this up. Honest. We have four kids.

I know I said I wanted to freeze the girls at 18 months. I love that age. But I didn't mean it. I wanted her to grow up and be a sassy mouthed 7 year old. I wanted to fight with her over what she could and couldn't wear to school. I wanted to be mad at her, yet so relieved, when she wrecked her first car. Just enough to scare her. I wanted to be mad at her when she went over on her minutes by $489 dollars. I know she would not have been any more perfect than the rest of my children, but now she is. She never had the chance to grow up and let us down. How hard will that be to live up to? I can already hear it. You loved Tuesday more.


We love you more Because of Tuesday.

We all love them more because of Tuesday."


Lisa said...

Wow. That puts a grieving mother's heart in total perspective. What a tragic, tragic loss for this mother with so many hopes and dreams.

I hope she knows she'll see her beloved and precious daughter again. That she will always be this girls mother.

Jill said...

I'm not sure she knows that Lisa, because I don't know her. I hope she does because it will give her the strength to go on. What would this life really mean if this was all there was?? I cannot even imagine.

Susan Rozier said...

We never know what heartache or trial we'll be called upon to bear. At Relief Society Sunday a quote was given: "Know Jesus, Know Peace. No Jesus, No Peace." In struggling with grandchildren who are making wrong choices, I felt my peace being destroyed. It took much reflection, scripture study, fasting, and focusing on the Saviour, to find peace in spite of the anguish I feel for them and because of them. This woman is experiencing another trial, different from mine, but she too can find peace if she looks in the right place for it. It isn't easy and it doesn't happen all at once. It it a progressive healing as one understands His love for all his children. Love, Susan

Ammy Moore said...

That is powerful....and I LOVED the quote Susan put up that said, "Know Jesus, Know Peace. No Jesus, No Peace." AND her comforting...I just hope that this woman is comforted as well.

Kris said...

OK, that killed me. Wow. Thank you for sharing- gives a good perspective that's for sure.

Kathy's Red Door Welcome said...

This is another sad moment. What's sadder is that she is not alone. Life has a way of hitting hard at times. It's alway hard to understand this kind of loss when someone is so darn young.

Mary said...

As tough as my life has been over the years, I am always grateful that the one burden I've never had to bear is the loss of a child. I don't know how one ever recovers from that. Thank God for the Comforter and the healing power of our Savior.

grandmapeg said...

I can't imagine what it would be like to lose a child. My heart goes out to this mother and to all those who have lost a child. This was very touching.

Tom and Karen Mortensen said...

Wow Jill this was some post. I know a little bit of how this mother feels. The part about not being able to do certain things with her daughter. This little girl is soooo cute. I bet she was a character. I wish I could have known her. Her mother was lucky to have her for a while. I am just sorry that sweet little girl had to be sick. I bet her and Robin are having a good time now.